Out Walking With a Young Gentleman

Last night I was out with a nice young man. (The Chemistry Student)

When walking back to my car with me, he says "So, I don't know the proper etiquette when out courting a woman and walking down a city a street." He switches to walking on the other side of me.  "Do I walk on the side between you and the road? In the case of a horse and carriage careening out of control I would be able to push you to safety and take the hit? Or do I walk between you and the buildings so that the chamber pots being emptied from above splash onto my head and not yours?"

I laughed and told him, "Ah, don't forget that if you are walking between me and the buildings, you would be able to protect me from anyone lurking in the shadows of the doorways and alleys".

"Ah yes!" He says, he laughs. "I would be able to push you away from him..."
"Sending me into the street.."
"And I would get stabbed to death ..."
"While I am run over by a horse..."
(Laughter ensued)
"Dating can be Complicated, can't it"

The things he could have said

The things he could have said

First of all, he could have said “Hi, how are you doing?  I know you said you wanted some space, but I wanted to let you know I was thinking of you”.

Instead, he said, “Went on my first date Friday. After much  deliberation, I  decided to share that, although it was nice, I couldn't shake the feeling that I wish it was you. Crazy as that might be”

When I got back to him, telling him that I’ve been miserable, and why on earth would he send this message to me?  How was he trying to make me feel?  Because it upset me! 

After that, he could have said, “I’m sorry, I should never have sent that to you.  I didn’t realize how that would make you feel.  And I’m sorry things haven’t been going well for you”.  But he didn’t. Nope.  While he did say, kind of, that the message wasn’t intended to hurt me….he didn’t seem very sorry, not at all.

I asked him more than once to explain his reasoning in contacting me in such a way.  He said, “We have nothing more to say to each other”. (In his language meaning he didn’t want to talk about it).  He could have tried to say something nice.

I told him I wished he had tried to reach out to me in a different way.  He said, “I’ll never bother you again”.  (In his language meaning I’ll never hear from him ever again).  He could have said he’d try to more sensitive of my feelings.

Oh, the things he could have said, but didn’t.